Chris,
Nice photos.
You never know about the balancing, since generators of the same design, but different sizes, tend to load out evenly on a percentage basis. Maybe even tying the fields together might not be necessary. I think you'd have to try it first to be sure, unless you had really accurate impedance numbers for the generators, as well as the loads you intended on using.
As far as the commercial AVR's go, apparently the CT is only for balancing the reactive power, I think they rely on the relative size of the generators to balance out the kW's themselves. So I don't know if it's needed, but your idea for the logic circuit sounds neat. As for synchronization, if you KNEW you wanted all that power on a semi permanent basis, link the two engines/gen heads together with ???chain/drive shaft coupling??? Just a thought. Then you could also balance the power pulses out, and have one piston firing every 180 degrees. If you set it up right, you might be able to do that during the electrical linking of the genheads.
Steve